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A question many men have
I often receive emails similar to this one:
“Dear Lara.
It is really interesting to read your website and I've read it twice. I am in a dilemma about your service “Arousal Management Training”.
Thousands of very experienced doctors offer this service but there is no real evidence found, that the client is fully cured. I have found that millions of clients have lost thousands of pounds and put themselves in deep depression...I think it is not possible to learn this skill without real sex with a teacher”.
My answer to this question is directed not only to men but to women too, their partners and wives.
First, PE is not an illness and so cannot be cured.
PE is a natural physiological reflex in a male body which is completely normal and important for reproduction purposes. Nature does not care about the joy of sex, nature cares about quick and definite impregnation. So, all doctors and many therapists make money on what cannot be changed permanently by pills or intellectual discussion. They do not train men to operate with their bodies rightly.
Being sexually close with a woman your are in love with, is the purpose of human joy of intimacy. This is my strong opinion. If you are not careful with whom you have sex with you can face a big problems in your life. I am not talking about STD, I am talking about your ability to love someone devotedly and deeply.
The other point, all women are different, their behaviour in bed is like the weather for a pilot, he needs to be good enough with operating his plane in any weather. Putting your penis into somebody's vagina will not give you the right training to be a good lover, even if you will do that with many women. It is like trying to drive different cars when you never learnt to drive. You can jump in as many cars as you want but it will teach you nothing. You have to have a proper training with the teacher and obtain physical skills which have to become natural habits. The same in sexual behaviour. You have to overwrite your instinctive sexual responses by newly trained responses. And as in learning driving or flying, you start in the safe zone, not on the real road or in the sky. You have to consider also that to become a good driver in a small car does not give you enough skills to drive the lorry. The same having sex with different women. There are main principles and skills of good driving in any vehicle, so there are main principles of lovemaking with any woman, which I teach.
One more point, having sex with the trainer is not training at all, because she is a human being, a woman. She can make the client concentrate more on the feeling of desire to her, rather than on the learning of management skills. If she is involved as a lover she gets aroused. Her mind would work differently in this case, not as a trainer's mind, but just as a sexually aroused woman's mind, she will need to think about her own sensations and energy, otherwise she can get physically uncomfortable. Her body will effect your body. She can make you last longer if she is a skilful lover and enjoys herself, but this will be for you a false triumph. With another woman, who is not skilful like “the therapist” you will again fail. Or, she can make you come even faster, to stop her body being involved, in which case she could just say:”You need a lot of sessions”. This is how you can spend thousands! Most, if none of these “therapists” and obviously doctors do not have any proper understanding of how to train men.
Third, training the body not to ejaculate is a process when only becomes a skill over time.
Bare in mind, the trainer is the guide. It is your body needs to be skilful, not the trainer's body! So, you need to train yourself in solo practice before you do that with the partner. It just like in sport. This skill can be developed only by the person himself, with regular training. If he stops using this skill he can return to his natural biological functioning. That's why married men start to experience PE later in life, while when younger they could last longer. In sex two people are involved, so they have to be equally responsible for what happens during sex. So, your woman should be your partner in driving energy, not just you alone. Boredom, routine and a purely physical way of having sex (no emotional involvement) will return you back to your biological programming.
I give a man a powerful training which he needs to continue as a regular practice to prepare himself to any "weather". Without that he can spend thousand of pounds and it is futile! With me he often needs only one session, then he knows how to develop this skill.
My advice to girlfriend and wives
Even if your man does not ejaculate quickly now, but, if you both will not create the art of lovemaking, he can always return to this natural biological response later. Over the time your passion will be reduced, your can feel boredom and less interest to what you do now in sex. It is very important for any man of any age to learn what I teach on Arousal Management Training.
Yet, you have 2 choices:
- advise him to have an Arousal Management Training with me. It is for your benifits as I will teach him how to love you better!
- Go on my session as a couple and learn together how to develop the art of lovemaking. It will help him to control his arousal and it will help you to create the right energy flow and deeper emotional and physical pleasure.
The money and time you both will invest will bring you fortune in your love relationship.
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